Love or Longing?

          Have you ever watched a child eat ice cream? They want it so badly that they lose sight of everything else. They don’t care about the game they were just playing, their favorite toy, Dora, Nemo, or any other animated friend. All they care about is getting what they want; ice cream. It doesn’t matter to them if they get sticky, sick to their stomach, or too full . . . they are going to eat every last bite.

          Sometimes as adults, we act the same way; we want something and no matter how it makes us feel, how hard we struggle, no matter what the cost, we are determined to have it. When we want love, we will do anything to have love no matter what. So, we need to ask ourselves; is it love or longing?

          Are we really in love, or are we longing for love so much that we’ve told ourselves it must be love? Are we ignoring our full-aching tummies? Are we letting our faces get covered in sticky, messy, nastiness because we’re shoveling our faces with what we thought we wanted?

         
          It can be sooo hard to tell ourselves “No”, when we desperately want to say “Yes”.  . . having the foresight and strength to look to the future, can save us amazing amounts of heartbreak. We have to start being 100% honest with ourselves and not forcing a relationship simply because we want a relationship. We deserve ice cream and we deserve to enjoy every last bite . . .but forcing it, shoveling it down our gullets for fear that it might soon be gone, will only cause problems in the long run.

          So, remember to ask yourself; is it love, or longing?

 

                                                                                      Sincerely,

 

                                                                                      Carmen